Monday, July 11, 2011

this is your life.

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i love this man. and i know that he knows that. i don't necessarily feel that we have to announce it to the entire world to make it true. not that there is anything wrong with that because i know i admit that i love him a lot publicly, especially here on this blog. and he has done the same. however there have been times in my life where i have caught myself questioning things. like if he doesn't announce it all over the internets everyday like sally's husband then it must not be true? maybe that was just satan trying to get me to think that what we had wasn't enough, but that was wrong of me. it was my fault that i suddenly questioned if just saying it in private was enough. i don't need him to do that for everyone to see. not that he never does. but it doesn't mean that if he doesn't all the time or everyday that our love isn't special. i know he loves me and i am so happy and comfortable with where we are. and i apologize if i have ever made anyone feel some of those things that i was feeling. i don't know when it finally hit me but i was wasting a lot of time comparing my life to others. letting others make me think that their lives, not just love was better. i am happy with my life. whether people know publicly or not. i think there is a lot that goes on between peoples relationships that we think we know, but we really don't. as honest as i try to be on this blog? i don't share everything. just like i am sure that you don't. no one can fully understand a relationship or friendship unless they are in it. and just because your husband or boyfriend or significant other might not announce it all over for the world to see.. doesn't mean that he doesn't text it to you, or leave little notes on your car, or tell you in person how much he loves you. in fact he might not even do those things but it doesn't mean that he doesn't feel it. and you know what i think is the best thing about love? it is all unique. not better, not greater, not worse, not less. just different. no one's love is greater than anyone else. and it should never be compared. because in reality it can never be explained. so why compare something that can't be put into words?

p.s. i really like the below quote. i think it helped me realize that it was my own fault that i was
wasting my time."if you don't like something, change it."

 
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11 comments:

Victoria M said...

I liked this post a lot. Thank you. The quote made me smile, and reminded me of a lot of things. Sometimes I spend so much time thinking about how to be happy I forget to just be happy! If there is one truth its that we all have to quit wasting our time (no matter how we are doing it)
Anyway, thanks :)

Caroline said...

What a real post!!! I love it Chloe! And thank you for sharing that quote ... I needed to read something like that today!!! Sending you hugs!!! XO!

Krysten @ After 'I Do' said...

You two are such an amazing couple. Love you both together.

The Lewicutt's est 2006 said...

I love this! I always wonder about the people who are always happy. Like, is it really a special little date if you're photographing and tweeting about it the whole time so you can blog about it?

Some things should be experienced without electronics interrupting it... in my opinion, they're more special when you're entirely engaged with each other instead of all of your internet friends.

Lacey, Aj Swenson said...

You two are such an awesome couple. This is exactly how I feel. Im happy because I know he loves me but I dont feel that he has to tell everyone in the world ( even though it would be nice if he blogged it...jk ) Thats what matters most is how you make eachother feel. Thanks for this, it said everything that I have felt for a long time.

Kim said...

love love this. thank you for it! i needed to hear it. i read this cheesy lds romance book? and i loooved it, but then i sat and thought about how mine and michael's relationship is and isn't like the one in the book and how maybe we're getting old or acting different than when we were engaged or whatever. you know what i mean? but that's so dumb. just like you said. ah. i just love this post. and i love that quote at the bottom. thanks so much for posting this! you and sean are seriously so cute nad i love reading about you guys and seeing your pictures together and everything. i can tell you are so so in love, and i love that! thanks for sharing this! i just love you. and i miss you! hope you're having an awesome tuesday!

Michelle+Ellie said...

you guys are too cute!

Maddie said...

beautifully written chlo! you two are my faves. that quote is great too. love ya!

samnhal said...

It's so easy to compare yourself to others and to want what they have, and especially compare their relationship to yours, like they do this, so I need to do that. I have a hard time with that. Just because they think that way, and do that in their relationship doesn't mean that I need to be that way too. Every relationship is different, and it's hard not to judge people's relationships. This post is an amen.

mama boss said...

I did the same thing. For the longest time I was constantly comparing and secretly imagining how my life would've been if I'd ended up with someone else, or somewhere else. I'm actually embarrassed to admit that I ever did that...and even more embarrassed to say that I still do from time to time. I've definitely gotten better at being grateful for, and happy with, who I'm with and where I'm at. I don't know when it came, but there was a definite change in my thinking. Maybe it was after we got to CO, and I was able to really feel separated from my whole life before my marriage and children.
Anyway, sorry to talk your ear off. Your posts always do that to me. I read them and then find myself opening up about everything. Ha. Probably because you are so awesome.
Thanks for being so honest on your blog. It makes it less scary for me to open up. :)

missy. said...

i love that picture of you two.. so beautiful.

anyway - "i think there is a lot that goes on between peoples relationships that we think we know, but we really don't." this is so true, you can think someone's life is absolutely perfect because it is SO easy to make it seem that way, especially over the world wide web. never allow yourself to become jealous over something you do not know all the facts on. you and your hubs are perfectly in love, whether you announce it every day or he does. you can see it in your pictures and i think that right there says it all.

xoxo